5 Tips For Performing Outstanding Cunnilingus
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Last week, we delved deep into how to give a fantastic blow job. This week, it's the ladies' turn -- we turned once again to Kristen Tribby of The Pleasure Chest to help us figure out exactly what to do when mouth meets vagina.
Here, some tips for going down on your woman with the best of them:
1. Please stop pointing your tongue
We don't want to name names, but lots of people out there go straight for sword-tongue when they start giving a woman head. Please do not do that.
"Most women do not like a pointy, hard tongue on the clit," said Tribby. "Try flattening your tongue and using broad strokes."
Repeat after me: broad strokes. BROAD STROKES. The hard, jabbing tip of your mouth-muscle is giving nobody an orgasm any time soon.
2. Go ahead and use your hands
In my experience, most cunnilingus-providers aren't afraid to shove a finger or two up in there while going down. Which is great. Tribby suggests curling two fingers up towards her belly button once they're inserted, and using a "firm 'come hiher' motion" to stimulate the g-spot.
But! Fingering her isn't the only way to incorporate your hands.
"You can also use the labia to massage the clit by gently pressing the lips together and kneading the clit between your fingers," said Tribby. "Putting firm pressure on the mons pubis (the mound) and incorporating circular motions will also help to awake the nerves."
3. To toy or not to toy (to toy!)
There's a misconception (I hope it's a misconception, anyway) that men out there are intimidated by sex toys. Nothing can replace a real, human dick, so don't worry. But that doesn't mean a good toy can't help with oral, especially because - well, you probably can't get your dick up there at the same time, and sometimes it's nice to have penetration that doesn't involve a fingernail.
Tribby says that the most popular toy amont the Pleasure Chest staff is the Pjur Wand, because it's "perfectly designed for accessing the G-Spot..it's also slender enough to stay out of your mouth's way."
4. Stay the course, a.k.a. pay attention
There's nothing worse than when your partner has found a really super rhythm with you, they're licking away, and then suddenly they decide that because you're so into it they should start going as fast and hard as humanly possible just when you're about to come.
Instead, if you're doing something that has your woman writhing with pleasure, just fucking keep doing it. You will know she's writhing with pleasure by the fact that she is writhing. In order to notice that, though, you'll have to get out of your own head (ha) and focus on her movements.
"Often, when women want more they will thrust their hips towards your mouth," said Tribby. "Once you found the movement that works, repetition is key."
5. Forget what you learned in high school
If what you learned in high school is that forming the letters A-Z with your tongue is the way to make a woman come, I regret to tell you that you've been woefully misinformed.
"A big misconception is that people should write the alphabet with their tongue," said Tribby. "This is silly, because when you're concentrating on letters in your head, you're not paying attention to her signals in the moment."
Tribby suggests creating suction around the clit, as if it were the head of a penis, and always using a flat tongue to go back and forth.
Keep these rules handy, and you will have a happy lady on your hands. And in your mouth (COULD NOT RESIST).