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Getting sober is no picnic. Staying sober is even less of one, and for recovering alcoholics, navigating the world of dating can add undue stress to their lives.
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I think if you ask someone during sex "Do you think you're going to come?" you should expect "Not now I'm not" to be the answer. Or another response might be, "Oh, I'm sorry; is this BORING YOU? Do you have someplace you need to be?" Because the question implies that you'd like whatever is transpiring to be over soon. 
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But a friend of mine had a more charitable take on it, saying, "I've said that to guys I'm blowing. That shit gets tedious." And she's right, it can get tedious. But personally, I consider asking for orgasm ETAs something you shouldn't actually say out loud. Whether such inquiries would anger or annoy you might depend on how sensitive you are, but there are other things said in the sack that aren't so open to debate in terms of appropriateness. And in terms of super-creepiness. I probed colleagues about the worst, most bonerkilling things they'd ever heard in bed. Here are some of our favorites from an informal poll:
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Danielle Bacher
By age 22, music author/journalist Ethlie Ann Vare had slept with no less than 75 men, and she had already stopped counting. It was not the sex that meant anything to her; it was the feelings of love and desire, and of being loved and desired in return.
In the early-1980s, Vare was a writer at Billboard magazine working under rock editor Roman Kozak. She attended virtually every concert in town and met countless famous musicians.
She felt like the rock stars she covered and partied with would not be able to fill that void.
"It took me a really long time to understand that just because a man wants you doesn't mean he loves you," she admits. "As I learned over the years, men will fuck sheep. It really isn't an emotional connection for them, especially rock stars, but it was for me."
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Having been together since 1988, my wife and I have pretty well run the sexual cycle; from hot, youth driven four-times-a-day beginnings in our early 20's, to flat, work stressed periods, pre- and post-childbirth and everything in-between.
We've visited swing clubs (as voyeurs), played with every sex toy imaginable, watched porn, done it in public, had sex while driving, experimented with tantra, and covered literally every inch of our living space in every position possible. So, after 24 years or marriage and counting, what ground is there left to cover?
The climax of our three-part guide to three-way sex includes essential information on not having things get super-weird while/after you bone whatever duo you've slipped into bed with. 
Photo Courtesy of Nina Hartley Author, sex expert and porn legend Nina Hartley
And as an precautionary/inspirational bonus, our generous guide Nina Hartley shares a few personal anecdotes from her decades worth of three-way experiences. (The messy and the awesome).
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If part one of our handy three way guide got you all revved up on polyamory, then this second installment will take you all the way there. ("There" being in the sack with multiple companions who aren't also your cats). Photo Courtesy of Nina Hartley Author, sex expert and porn legend Nina Hartley
Here, sex expert Nina Hartley shares her sage advice on what to do after you've found two people willing to sleep with you at the same time.
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Most of us have entertained the notion of getting it on with two people at once. Fewer of us have actually done it. Author, sex expert and porn legend Nina Hartley, however, has engaged in hundreds of threesomes and even lived in a three-way situation for two decades, so the woman has a tip or two to share on turning this particular fantasy into actual skin on skin on skin action.
In this three-part guide to three-way love, Hartley shares her insights on how to fulfill the fantasy in a way that will leave the whole group feeling satisfied and not the least bit sad, mad or totally creeped out.
In part one, we focus on effectively laying the foundation for group love.
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Flickr/robertelyov The Pope isn't the only one giving condoms a bad (w)rap.
It seems like everyone from Popes to porn stars are down on condoms these days.
(Note to Self: Write treatment for potential new reality show: "From Popes to Porn Stars.")
The outrage over a new law requiring adult film actors to wear condoms in porn seems to imply that cock socks are the ultimate turn off. But why? When did condoms become the new douchebags?
Sandra Daugherty is a sex educator at L.A.'s 'The Pleasure Chest' and host of Nerdist's SexNerdSandra Podcast. She clued me in on the biggest complaints people have about condoms and offered some helpful tips for turning even the most fervent jimmy hat hater into a certified rubber lover.
If all you know about Tantra is what you've picked up from watching various Sting interviews, then listen up, 'cause this is going to be awesome and hot, (just like Sting, actually). 
Flickr/h.koppdelaney It Feels...Kind of Like This
Tantra isn't just freaky sex; it's an ancient spiritual practice. But don't worry, hornballs, you will be awakening your divine spiritual self through...sex! Or, the systematic cultivation and storage of sexual energy.
That sounds great, you say, but when do I get to get it on? Eventually. Here is a basic Tantra regimen for beginning couples:
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Keith Plocek This is going to be easy!
Coachella's sold out (though you can prob score a Weekend 2 set for a case of PBR, a C-note and at least one BJ). SXSW is approaching just as springtime ... err, springs, and Bonnaroo -- ticket presale just ended, folks! -- is set for just before the sun is too hot for daytime boning.
What this means? Music festival season is nearly upon us, which also means lots of sex with individuals with whom you'll will never again see, speak or suck face. Here is a roundup of the random tail you can expect to get at festivals across the nation this spring and summer:
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