Henry Rollins: Gay Marriage Is Punk Rock

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[Look for your weekly fix from the one and only Henry Rollins right here on West Coast Sound every Thursday, and come back tomorrow for the awesomely annotated playlist for his Saturday KCRW broadcast.]

Hats off to Washington state where, recently, hundreds of same-sex couples were legally married. I am elated as much as I am frustrated by why this country refuses to wake up and smell the 14th Amendment of the Constitution. I feel for everyone who wanted to get married for so long and were made to feel so bad about who they are. I feel worse for all the Americans in the large number of remaining states still waiting for their turn to enjoy the freedoms and protections bestowed upon them by their very citizenship.

There is still a long way to go. Marriage equality is a term so ridiculous on its face that when you hear it mentioned, you would think you were in Riyadh. Years from now, perhaps we can lose the equality part, the same-sex part and call it what it is -- marriage. As much as the homophobes, an ever-thinning herd, whines and screeches, the earth is shifting underneath their feet and things are getting better all the time. This is going to be an incredible century. Didn't get off to a very good start but we are making some bold and exciting strides forward.

I have been reading online people's reaction to what happened in Washington and there seems to be concern, sincere but misguided, as to what happens when same-sex couples adopt and how kids need a mommy and a daddy, etc. Kids need parents who love and support them unconditionally, full stop. You think children give a damn about their parents' gender?

The choice between a child being raised by two adults who adore the child and the kid being kept with a bunch of other children in a facility like some Charles Dickens wide shot is obvious. You watch, in years to come, some of the brightest and most productive people entering into the adult working world will be the kids who were raised by same-sex parents.
I know two young girls and their two fathers. The girls are amazing and the two dads are solid as a rock. All four of them are lucky to have found each other. Imagine a 15-year-old kid saying, "I have two moms, it's cool." I don't fear that at all.


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debbienzeke
debbienzeke

Is Mr. Rollins out of the closet yet?  Just curious.  I'm thinking no.   Man up already, Henry.  Everyone already knows.  


avalonlove_love
avalonlove_love

Wonderful man ty so much for the constant support Henry .

AmericanRobb
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Affording gay and lesbians the same rights as heterosexuals is not about being politically correct, it is about equal rights under the law. It has nothing to do with religion. Last time I looked, my marriage license was issued by the state not a church. Under the law, marriage is tantamount to a business relationship. In no other "business" dealings are people of the same sex not allowed to engage in some exchange of services or not allowed to have a business relationship. It makes no sense that certain people should be precluded from engaging in a marital relationship. This does not have to do with being liberal, conservative, pc or punk. It has to do with being logical.

thundercash357
thundercash357 like.author.displayName 1 Like

I'm sorry but being politcally correct has nothing to do with 'punk rock,' and if it does then I no longer want to be associated. Sadly, Henry, you're caving to the pressure of the politically correct for the sake of perserving your column. How long do you think you'd still be writing for the LA Weakly if you promoted the contrary? I won't. Those who continually assail individuals who want to identify themselves as uniquely commited to a member of the opposite sex have no respect or empathy from me. Society continually engages in the practice of denegrating any individual who wishes to uniquely identify themselves or ascribe to a unique ideology and insists that all people can be all things, and this simply isn't factual. It's a sad day when a bastion of individuality gets in line with the rest of the sheep and says, 'Yeah, we are all the same, we are all equal.' This is a fantasical perception of that which is not.

mediaismediated
mediaismediated

@thundercash357  "Those who continually assail individuals who want to identify themselves as uniquely commited to a member of the opposite sex have no respect or empathy from me."   ...He's saying that if 2 adults of the same sex want to marry each other, then they should be able to.  How does that infringe on YOUR rights in any possible way?

revfigueiredo
revfigueiredo like.author.displayName 1 Like

In general, the arguments against gay marriage stem from religious perspectives, probably because for most of the history of Western thought, marriage has been a religious institution--and now, it seems like a holdover from Henry VIII's break from the Catholic church. Constitutionally, if we really want to adhere to the 'separation of church and state' clause, the sanctioning of marriage should be replaced with civil unions for all, leaving marriage in the domain of religious organizations. In this situation, legally sanctioned marriages would shift to civil unions, and they would hold the same legal and social benefits that marriages currently hold (and marriage would hold none of those legal benefits). 

Basically, this public debate (if you can call it that) has had a difficult time making up any ground until recently (as in Washington state), but a lot more headway could be made if we started looking at the issue from another angle.

On a semi-related side note, I crack up laughing every time I listen to your bit about living in a duplex/apartment next to a group of gay men, and how you'd encourage them by playing death metal at full blast so that they could hear it through the paper-thin walls. A friend and I went in on a two-disc DVD and two CDs of your standup where you talked about it. And your '06/'07 show in Philly had some really entertaining and enlightening thoughts on the subject (through a comedic lens). 

JennieVasquez
JennieVasquez topcommenter like.author.displayName like.author.displayName like.author.displayName like.author.displayName like.author.displayName 5 Like

I don't read the Constitution everyday, or at all since leaving school and I was not raised in a place with a large gay population.  I grew up in a small town full of very conservative individuals.  I am a very simple thinker and much of what goes on in the world goes totally over my head.  The whole gay marriage debate baffles me.  I've always voted with the thought in mind that religious beliefs should not interfere with people's basic equal rights and that when I vote I need to remember that not everyone is a Christian and all individuals have just as many rights as everyone else.  So simply put, if 2 people, regardless of their gender what to get married, well then let them.  What's the big deal?  I know some people would want to know how I can consider myself a Christian and defend gay marriage.  My response, I believe religion is about love and accepting others not about hate and exclusion.  If that makes me wrong or a sinner well then add that to the many other sins I've committed in my life. It's a long list.   I am fortunate though in that I was raised by parents that taught me not to hate.  I am also fortunate that many years ago my mentor and college professor Joe, had his students volunteer with Project Chicken Soup.  It was there that a simple country girl like me who knew nothing about the gay community had an opportunity to learn what love really is.  I'll never forget the day I did a delivery to a couple, one was dying of AIDS.  He was very ill and bed ridden.  They were a wonderful couple that had done drag pageants and they showed me their costumes and talked about the fun they had and they were so loving to each other. They were so kind to me.  I remember leaving that place thinking to myself, I want to be loved like that.  To this day I cannot understand why anyone would deny 2 people with that kind of love, the right to marry.  I just don't get it.

susanfigueiredoreave
susanfigueiredoreave like.author.displayName like.author.displayName 2 Like

Your comment is as powerful as the article. Thank you for your attitude. I truly believe that if non LGBT folks actually knew any LGBT folks, their attitudes would change. 

JennieVasquez
JennieVasquez topcommenter

@susanfigueiredoreave Thanks.  I completely agree with you about attitudes changing if people just took the time to get to know others rather than judge from the sidelines of life.  

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